it’s been awhile since my last post, and quite frankly i was holding off until i had something noteworthy and not negative to share. but considering my holiday season consisted of shaving my head on christmas day and spending new years eve curled up in the fetal position on the couch while recovering from chemo, that seems highly unlikely.
i vastly underestimated how traumatic it would be to lose my hair. obviously i knew it was coming, i had already donated 11 inches of it in preparation. even so, when i woke up on christmas eve to find the pillowcase covered in hair it was quite jarring. i spent the remainder of the day terrified of touching my head and frantically sweeping stray strands from my clothes. i tried to persuade myself that it wasn’t so bad, i could hold onto my hair for another few days or so since i had so much of it. and, as i stubbornly insisted to ray after arriving home christmas night, it wasn’t like i was losing patches of hair. just some strands. and i have plenty! then i ran my fingers through my hair for emphasis. like a fool. and found myself holding a considerable chunk of it.
there i was, 11 pm on christmas, sitting on a stool in our bathroom as ray ran the shears across my scalp. and as i watched my hair pile up on the bathroom floor i found myself sobbing. heaving, hysterical, gulping for air sobs. if you need a visual, refer to the scene in v for vendetta when natalie portman gets her head shaved. granted my barber wasn’t a masked vigilante holding me against my will…but you get the idea.
so now im rocking a jarhead-esque buzz. and unlike natalie and anne hathaway and sinead o’conner before me i’m patchy bald, not making a statement for my art bald. because my hair isn’t growing back in. i look like a cross between a hobo and that silly novelty game with the bald man and the magnetized hair. thankfully it’s winter so i can be inconspicuous and hide under all sorts of hats and scarves. and i do have two fabulous wigs but they’re not exactly comfortable, physically or mentally.
after that i geared up for my second round of chemo on the 28th. this time was much easier since i knew what to expect. plus i had an entourage with me, and that makes everything better. which brings us to new years eve. since it was three days out from treatment we had to stay in for the night. honestly, i shouldn’t complain about the side effects because it hasn’t been too terrible so far. no nausea, no vomiting, but intense fatigue and aches. which essentially means i’m a pleasure to be around. as we rang in 2013 by watching anderson cooper nervously giggle at every inappropriate comment made by kathy griffin, i was getting more and more irate about the tweets being broadcast on the crawl. one woman actually tweeted to anderson “thanks for making my nye, i’m SO sick with laryngitis and couldn’t go out tonight.” laryngitis. seriously? so you lost your voice. drink some tea with honey, take a ricola, and get over yourself.
all this snarkiness and negativity is getting old. i know that i’m entitled to feel this way, and that i need to express and own my emotions and blah blah blah. but it’s just so unfamiliar to me. i used to be a logical, rational person. but now i have this deep seated resentment about the most ridiculous things. like people with laryngitis. and hair. and unrestricted diets. it’s not their fault i have cancer and my life is a monotony of supplements, superfoods, and doctor visits. and i should be happy for them that they get to enjoy blowouts and cupcakes while tweeting about nonsense. hopefully i’ll get there soon so my next post can be about rainbows and butterflies.